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Aditi's avatar

wow!! Found this essay through an instagram reel and I am blown away!! the way you have articualted the moral imbalance of expectations and its duality, is impecable.. looking forward to more such written peices

Munch's avatar

Sameeee I wanna read this again and again

Riya Vijayvargia's avatar

I was also thinking about that founder who said he pays 1 lakh to his house help. People praised him. But I kept wondering… if a woman founder said the exact same thing, imagine how nasty the comments would have been.

Women making money is sane .. it’s society’s reaction to it that’s messed up.

Bhoomika Motwani's avatar

Love This! - “But the cultural software did not update at the same pace as the legal hardware.”

👏👏👏

Anu's avatar

Came from a reel and boyy this is awesome! Great work! Subscribed for more.

Mahak Makharia's avatar

One of your best works till date :)

NikiJads's avatar

Brilliant. Brilliant. Brilliant. The insights, the direction of thinking, the conclusions, the interpretations, the UNDERSTANDING. This deserves so much more visibility!

Bhumika's avatar

The piece has both fury and sensitivity at the same time. Loved the way you have expressed!!

Ashna Makhija's avatar

just so happy to have come across this! it's so well articulated🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟

Sharad's avatar

Absolutely brilliant piece of writing. It’s been a while since I’ve read something this impactful. Thank you, Harnidh.

Spriha Singh's avatar

havent read something this compelling in a long while. you did an impeccable job here.

Manmayee Joshi's avatar

Brilliantly written!! Even though I like to think of myself as a feminist, I realised how much I conveniently chose to ignore, and this essay gave me a better understanding of what it is to be an actual feminist.

Purvy's avatar

This is, by far, the most intellectually arresting and conceptually rich exploration of this topic I’ve encountered. It is incisive, provocative, and genuinely mind-altering

Namrata Yadav's avatar

As I started reading, I was intrigued and wondered if the beginning paragraphs are entirely true for everywhere and as I continued reading, I felt seen, I felt tricked by society and I cannot stop sharing this with all my girlfriends who "like money. who want more of it. who will use it to make my life larger and kinder and freer. who will make mistakes. who will not apologise for existing outside the financial comfort of men."

Bhavya Bhat's avatar

Found this write up via a Insta reel, and I must say every minute spent reading this was worth it! Either I've experienced the things mentioned here or I've seen it happen to other women.

Khushboo's avatar

Coming back to this article again and again, it's so well articulated and put together. The first time a woman notices "the behaviour", there is definitely no going back. The 'ick' of hearing such statements and not crying over them, but growing herself with a better lifestyle and attitude speaks loudly of "never settling for less!"

Wealth Within's avatar

Thank you so much for this, Harnidh!

In my humble opinion, it’s all fear.

We both, women and men, fear the unknown.

A wealthy woman has granted herself the power of choice.

For other women, it shows them, in their face, what they could become. An antagonistic approach is used as an excuse to not doing the same.

For men, they can feel their status quo as being providers and kings of the human race is being challenged.

Our brains are programmed to keep us alive. Anything new is a threat.

What’s the solution? My suggestion: looking inside and be brave enough to recognise that what wealthy women are showing us is what we would like to be (as women) and, as a man, that when a powerful and wealthy woman chooses us is because she loves us, not because he needs us.