Ms Maammmmmmmm!!! Thank you for your service 🙏. I had a similar list going on my phone. Two things I also wanted to point out from my past relationship for ladies who are reading this....
What does vacation / travel mean to you. Ideal setup, Luxury/ Budget friendly/ Rustic who does the booking, how much are we compromising on budgets/stays. Who pays/ splits expenses?
What does chilling at home together mean to him ( if that's of any importance to the reader). If he's running away to meet his boys or pickle/padel the second he gets home ( and finishes dinner). You'll very soon feel like his mother asking why he wants to go out as soon as he's home .
If I ask him these questions and if I happen to not like any of his answers, even then my family won't allow me to leave him, they will say it's not that serious.
Oh, I have been having a similar list on me as well. Sometimes I'd wonder to myself if I am "overthinking" or "reading too much into it", but then, I remember I have seen too many women in my life postpone the uncomfortable conversations and it did not go well. It's a family my children will be born into, one I will be living with the rest of my life; we can never be too careful with it. All that said, we'll never get it all right perfectly. But this is a good place to begin.
I do have a few things to add to this:
. Medical tests before the wedding (fertility tests, thalassemia, HIV/STDs, Hepatitis B, C, immunity etc.,)
. Financial goals (the big and the small ones - kids' education funds, travel, buying a home etc)
I definitely loved this piece so much! It was rather extensive and necessary.
Ms Maammmmmmmm!!! Thank you for your service 🙏. I had a similar list going on my phone. Two things I also wanted to point out from my past relationship for ladies who are reading this....
What does vacation / travel mean to you. Ideal setup, Luxury/ Budget friendly/ Rustic who does the booking, how much are we compromising on budgets/stays. Who pays/ splits expenses?
What does chilling at home together mean to him ( if that's of any importance to the reader). If he's running away to meet his boys or pickle/padel the second he gets home ( and finishes dinner). You'll very soon feel like his mother asking why he wants to go out as soon as he's home .
God! I love being single ❤️
An excellently curated list!
If I ask him these questions and if I happen to not like any of his answers, even then my family won't allow me to leave him, they will say it's not that serious.
Oh, I have been having a similar list on me as well. Sometimes I'd wonder to myself if I am "overthinking" or "reading too much into it", but then, I remember I have seen too many women in my life postpone the uncomfortable conversations and it did not go well. It's a family my children will be born into, one I will be living with the rest of my life; we can never be too careful with it. All that said, we'll never get it all right perfectly. But this is a good place to begin.
I do have a few things to add to this:
. Medical tests before the wedding (fertility tests, thalassemia, HIV/STDs, Hepatitis B, C, immunity etc.,)
. Financial goals (the big and the small ones - kids' education funds, travel, buying a home etc)
I definitely loved this piece so much! It was rather extensive and necessary.